After a quiet day to myself cleaning, cooking, reading, surfing, music being a constant company, I had no plans to go out. My phone rang, it was my regular coffee companion and friend on the other end.
I agreed and went out to our usual haunt - Barista. Interesting bunch of people around and one significant loud woman with her mom and another guy with his - apprently prospective partnership at its initial first step - may be would lead somewhere.
Taking cue from the table next, we drifted to discussing what we would want in our prospective partners. I have had my share of experience and he just out of his engagement. Freedom as I experience is premised on things falling in line on its own and freedom for my friend emanates from his set of wants.
Being circumspect is also an escapade. Whether it is allowing the universe to conspire to make it happen or running away from what you have in the name of freedom. While these thoughts made waves inside, we both had a wishlist of what we want.
Coffee, conversation and company made for an evening of little achievement but not without our book browsing, new arrivals and philosophy section.
Every commoner's life is a plot for a novel and that gives me hopes to pen down mine too :)
A someone from IIT, IIM, JNU weaving their own getting as close to your life or mine.
I pick up a couple for weekend read spilling over to weekend next.
As I find a comfortable perch with black coffee and gear for my nicotine my phone shouts a call from another friend in town for a conference leaving early tomorrow morning.
Another one wearing his freedom on the sleeve and happy to announce his single status. Seemed quite haapy for someone who is out of relationship. What matters is the personal happiness. But why do we not get enough of that when we are with our significant best? What kills it that we begin to celebrate the freedom like never before?
Ego. Ego kills it, & reluctance to change... & the mindset that relationships eventually lead to compromises!
ReplyDeleteThe initial golden period of courtship is the perfect adventure trip, but when a certain level of comfort develops in the relationship... when we no longer pause to think a dozen times before we say something to the other (or in other words, we start speaking our minds out honestly!)... that's when people start looking for a way out!
We don't realize however, that relationships (all relationships for that matter, but specially with the one significant other) are a chance for us to see our own limitations and in what aspects of our lives, we can become a better person.
Freedom is always more tempting because we can settle in without botheration in our own little "comfort zones". Little birds are pushed out of their nests by their parents, so they could learn to fly. But until they take that first leap... they will never fly!
I agree, but also what I perceive is that patience is a virtue no more. I for instance learned a lot from my immediate last relationship which definitely made me more open and accepting to people. And I think that learning has come in handy and my wishlist has become more realistic. But it feels sad when you see things crumbling around
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